Abby

I have no problem with gender roles. Myself, I am definitely more on the complementarian side of things.
My problem is that Piper is saying that my temporary role as wife supersedes that as sister in Christ.
If my biological brother were in a pattern that damaged his soul (say… pornography, dishonesty, or pride) it would be my duty to warn him of the weeds Satan had been using to choke his soul.

But what I understand Piper to be saying is that I am to allow the most precious man in my life, my best friend, lover, and the father of my children, to continue in a pattern that is harmful to his soul, his witness, as well as the Body of Christ WITH MY FULL KNOWLEDGE.
Someone once said that all evil needs to succeed is for the good people to do nothing.
Piper is asking me to do nothing and watch my husband destroy himself.
He is asking me to allow my husband to continue doing things that my husband will have to stand before God and give an account for.
And many abusers are not aware they are abusive, in their minds it is right and justified.
But I would know it for what it is, abuse to my soul and his.
I am extremely protective of my marriage and my family. I will not stand by and watch The Destroyer wreak havoc on them.

I want to like Piper. I used to absolutely love his work. God used his words to comfort me through some hard times. But, ugh.
He is encouraging the abuse of men and women.
He is encouraging Satan’s pattern of destroying.