wanderer

First, I do not determine what the rules are at CARM, but I do my best to follow them, even if I do not agree. I am not simply coming here to attack somebody who is a “victim” but to see what the person has claimed to be. I came, expecting to see a completely different world where there were no attacks or harsh words directed towards others. I did not find that, and I do realize there is a difference between attacking and defending. What I don’t understand is people saying, “they did it first,” because that is pushing responsibility for our own actions onto others. Our actions should stand alone.

I assure you, I have also freely spoken about my concerns at CARM, in the appropriate manner. I was not banned for doing so, as I strived to do it with love and truth. Please do not insinuate that I am only focusing on one aspect, as you do not know the whole story.

I also understand that Cheryl owns and manages this blog, and what she allows is just that. I am not disputing that in any way. I was just expecting a different attitude after seeing her posts. I understand the desire to teach people the truth, whichever side of an argument people are on. What is disappointing is that so many Christians seem to forget that we are to show the fruits of our faith in what we do, and we should not do things that cause another to stumble.

I will respect your opinions that people who do not agree may leave, and do so. Cheryl, I thank you for responding to my posts.
“And this is my prayer: that your love may abound more in knowledge and depth of insight, so that you may be able to discern what is best and may be pure and blameless until the day of Christ, filled with the fruit of righteousness that comes through Jesus Christ– to the glory and praise of God.” — Philippians 1:9-11

Cheryl,
I have read a fair amount on CARM, and am currently reading through everything on your blog, since I haven’t been here before. As Christians, what we allow to be associated with us should be blameless, especially for those in ministry. I am trying to say this gently and with love, so please do not misunderstand me. I just don’t know why people are allowed to speak ill about others here if you do not personally believe that it is acceptable.

Cheryl, I came over from CARM to see your site and find out about your position. I must say that I’m sadly disappointed. I was looking forward to seeing something uplifting, but instead I find the same name-calling and derogatory comments that are on the other boards. I thought that you said you removed all those comments, and was looking forward to seeing what you claimed.