Reason 1 (Sherry): Her 8-week ultrasound. She didn't see a clump of cells — she saw her child. "My choice was to keep her alive or kill her." Ultrasound compilation shows parents instinctively calling the image "he" or "she," never "the fetus."

Sherry's aha moment came when the ultrasound penetrated the barrier of the belly. Parents universally respond to ultrasounds with personal pronouns ("look at him/her"), never clinical terms. The visual evidence of a living child changes the framing immediately.