Winger explains headship means the husband has a higher position of authority (not the only authority) — when they disagree, the deciding vote goes to the husband. But Jesus commands this be exercised with grace, love, and self-sacrifice, never 'lording it over' the wife.

Key claims: (1) Both husband and wife have authority — wife is 'an authority in the home,' 'an authority on the earth,' made in God's image, co-heir with Christ. (2) Husband has a 'higher role of authority' — when two authorities disagree, the deciding vote goes to the higher one. (3) Bossing her around violates Jesus's rules for all disciples: 'you want to be great, be the servant of all' and 'you can't Lord it over people.' (4) All abuse of authority is unbiblical, 'especially a husband's' because the husband pictures Christ and the church. (5) Relationship is NOT father-to-child — it's a partnership with differentiated authority. (6) Self-sacrifice principle: 'if one of us has to suffer, I'm making a decision about who it is — it's me.' (7) Admits 'I haven't always followed that rule but that is the rule.