Winger advises a 16-year-old in an egalitarian church on how to approach leaders: do self-assessment first (Matt 7:5, Gal 6:1), don't become one-sided in critique, acknowledge blessings from women's ministry even if the role is unbiblical, bring SPECIFIC evidence rather than just conviction, and start with encouragement.

Key advice: (1) Self-assessment first per Matt 7:5 (plank/speck) and Gal 6:1 (watch yourself). (2) Don't become one-sided — even if a woman shouldn't be in a pastoral position, people WERE blessed by her ministry, and that's real. (3) God uses people in imperfect positions (cites Caiaphas, Pilate). (4) Have a real plan — don't just share your conviction; bring specific evidence against specific claims. (5) Start with encouragement — express gratitude for the church and leaders. (6) If leaders suspect you're personally opposed to them, they stop listening. (7) Bring someone older for credibility since questioner is only 16. (8) Acknowledges 'there's more that can be said' and prays for wisdom.