Susanna Krizo

Well said, Elastigirl!
The only place where authority and submission is an intrinsic part of life is the army, which is why comps try very hard to make a marriage equivalent to an army, the husband being the officer and wife the private. But an army must have a purpose for its own existence, with set rules for its conduct. What does the husband-wife team fight against? Debbile Lowe from Mercy Chefs, currently serving in Haiti, put it well: if the wife is the private, she does all the work, i.e. the fighting. In this case it should be the husband who stayed at home, while the wife went out to the world to fight the enemy, who or whatever it was.