TL

” oh, wait… Christ has All authority… yes, definitely a disconnect here.”

Christ has all authority over all humanity, over all creation because He is God in the flesh. However, as Cheryl has pointed out God has chosen not to use that authority over our personal lives in choices and coercing actions from us.

Even if you consider yourself to be a god to your wife, which I rather doubt you do, if you follow Christ’s example you must resist the temptation to use your godly authority requiring obedience to your wishes in her personal choices and activities.

It is God’s desire that we ALL mature into the fullness of maturity of the man Christ Jesus. We cannot do this if we allow other’s to make our choices for us. If we wish to help another human being, especially one who is part of us as a spouse is, then we must follow Christ’s example and seek to serve them in all aspects, rather than seek to exercise authority over them in all aspects.