Susanna Krizo

Cheryl, I just read your post about your marriage and wow! it was just like mine! When Ira (and I) thought he was supposed to be in “charge” we were constantly in turmoil and headed for a divorce, for who can live without peace? When, after I did my research and found that egals were right, we changed our thinking, we changed back to what we were like before we got married. Just like you said, also we were best friends, we lost it, but now we can be that again for we no longer have the idea that he has to make all the decisions between us. We have figured out that he is really good at somethings and I am really good at somethings and that we better let the person who is good at the thing needed make the decisions for the benefit of the family.
“For her own good” is a title of a book which describes how male doctors thought they were prescribing treatments to their female patients “for their own good.” These treatments included laudanum (derivative of opium), hysterectomy for any and all reasons, bedrest for weeks, even months (without visits or anything to do, which drove some women insane), female circumcision etc. The doctors thought these were for their own good, but as we know now, they weren’t. When also women became doctors, the treatments changed for women began to ask the dreaded question “why?”
Thanks for sharing your story. It completely validated our experience and Ira would say he is the one who has benefitted the most since what he got back was me, the woman he traveled to the other side of the world to marry.