TL

“So I think the question that each wife but seek God on is, how is the Church to submit to Christ? And then do likewise.

I disagree Tiffany. IMO the question is not in what ways does the church submit to the Messiah, because Jesus is God in the flesh and we yield our lives to Him in many ways. The question IMO is in what MANNER do we arrange ourselves under. It is a question of attitude, not to make husbands little christs. We submit our lives to God in trust, honor, support and respect of who He is. We can as wives do the same for our husbands. We should be able to trust him unless he has proved otherwise. We should honor him, support him, and respect him for the person he is in Christ. It seems to me, that should be easy for you to agree with.

But then we have the problem that husbands should be having the same attitude toward their wives in the fear of the Lord according to vs. 21. It is likely that that is where the problem of our communication lies. However, why would such a basic Christian belief of honoring one another in Christ be deprived of wives by their husbands. Their are plenty of Scriptures that admonish it. Look at all the “one another” verses in the NT.