gengwall

Sue – while technically, there can be pornography where both partners are “equal”, the appeal of pornography (at least for men) is control and power. Even if the actors convey a loving relationship (as happens with homemade porn), the observer gets a power rush because they feel like they have control over sex, to put it simply. So, in a sense, it is the observer who is being dominant, even if the actors aren’t. You are not naive; you may only have not been aware of how deep the deviancy goes.