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”Applying the same reasoning we say that “wives should submit to their husbands in the same way that christians are to submit to human governance. But this is quite different than your proposed reading of Ephesians. And since two contradictory statements CANNOT both be true (again a fundamental axiom of logic) – we must find a hermeneutic which produces a consistent understanding for both passages.”
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That shouldn’t be too difficult. It’s called reading what is written in context. Reading in context means reading before the subject verse and sometimes after in order to find and follow the flow of thought of the author. It DOES NOT MEAN reading what is written in another letter on a different subject.

Reading from Ephe. 5:1-21, but specifically from around vs. 17 will give us the context of what attitudes Paul wants the wives to carry into their marriage. It not about government and law, which is truly quite a different subject. It is that as Christians we are to carry holiness, godly sacrifical love, being filled and directed by the Holy Spirit, thankfulness in prayers and honoring one another before God, forward with us into marriage. Our Christian lives as married people should look the same in marriage or out of marriage, as children or as parents, as slaves or as masters. There are no boundaries where the godly spiritual behaviors of a spirit filled person don’t apply.