Dave

Thanks heaps for the interaction at 460 Charis. I think I am understanding you better with regards to the difference not being hierarchy but just that there is a difference. I agree that there is a difference between husbands and wives!

If I can comment on one of your thoughts, I had an interesting time with all three of our kids. My wife wanted to breast feed, but at night she refused on the first night home with our first child to get up to feed him! It was not because she was not a great mum, but rather that she was hearing impaired and could not hear him! As a result, for all three of our kids I got up every time they needed feeding at night and brought them to her. I was unable to breast feed myself – though once my youngest tried to attach to me on a hot night when I was not wearing a shirt and was carrying her to her mum – it made my eyes water!.

I am not a mother, and so do not have a ‘mother’s instinct’, but I did this joyfully (except for that one painful time!) because they were my kids. Perhaps I am out of the ordinary(!), but it causes me to ask questions of some of your thoughts. Your thoughts?