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“Chrysostom, on the other hand, did tell a husband not to be a tyrant, that is not to authenteo.”

OOOOO good find. However, that IS still 300 years later than it’s usage in the NT. But the thing about that is that earlier, before the NT, it is my recollection that the word had even darker meanings. So, between however many years before Paul wrote it to Chrysostom we have the word authenteo changing into something less than what it used to be up to the meaning of tyrant.