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Craig #93 “We have always mutually decided on things and worked together as a team. I wore the leader badge but have never had to use it. So in this aspect, I am not sure if our marriage would practically change at all if we became egal.”

Craig, when I read, “I wore the leader badge but have never had to use it,” it sounded as if you do believe you have some degree of authority (to command obedience or compliance either by reward or punishment). I know you don’t mean a literal badge, but it sounds as if you believe(d) you inherently had some type of authority to wield should you deem it necessary.

Craig #142 “I think that if I asked many of my comp friends what it means to exercise authority in their marriage and in church they would talk more in terms of the words for leadership above. They would shrink back from the words used above for authority.”

You may be right about your friends. Or, would they echo your sentiment at #93? I don’t know. But, when I read comments like those at #93, read other material, and listen to sermons/conferences, it sounds like for hierarch-comps authority and leadership as you summarized go hand in hand and is reserved for males only.

Thoughts?