Craig

SM @148′
“Craig #93 “We have always mutually decided on things and worked together as a team. I wore the leader badge but have never had to use it. So in this aspect, I am not sure if our marriage would practically change at all if we became egal.”
Craig, when I read, “I wore the leader badge but have never had to use it,” it sounded as if you do believe you have some degree of authority (to command obedience or compliance either by reward or punishment). I know you don’t mean a literal badge, but it sounds as if you believe(d) you inherently had some type of authority to wield should you deem it necessary.”
I am sorry if I misled you with the “leader badge” idea. I have never believed that I have had authority to command obedience or compliance either by reward or punishment or any of the “authority” words from #142. This idea of authority is new to me. The most “authority” meant to me was that if some situation arose (and it never did) where my wife and I couldn’t come to some mutual agreement after prayer, discussion, time, counsel etc, I would be responsible to make the decision. I have discussed this with a few comps over the years and they had a similar opinion. I think I have been a fairly “bad” comp in both my marriage and church leadership situations because I have never thought about having or exercising the type of authority envisaged in #142.