Retha

Waneta said: “wives would again return to submitting the same way they submit to gravity–it just is.”
I’m just making double sure you understand what is said here: This “being subject” is not a complementarian doctrine. It is not something that some wives do, and bossy wives don’t. It’s not something you can stop, even temporarily, by saying: “This servant husband with the new heart is strange, I don’t know if it should be like this.”

It is the simple fact that his actions have an influence on you. If you are happier when he notices your new hairdo than when he doesn’t, it is evidence of this “being subject”. If your household is happier when he is in a good mood, it is evidence of “being subject”. Bossy wives are as much subject as meek wives with bossy husbands.

She cannot return to it. By reacting to his changing behavior, she is already showing the truth of her being subject to it. There is no ought, no command, no expectation of her, in this “being subject.” There is nothing that she is supposed to be doing. She is subject in everything – everything he do or say affect her. If he changes and become a better person, she will bloom under this influence. If he is hell to live with, she will wither under this effect he has on her. Blooming and withering are both evidence of the influence he has.