CinnamonRoll

Quote from blog: “In many complementarian churches, the male leadership is stymied about what women can or cannot do in the church”

I’m a woman over 40 years old, below 45, never married, and I’ve never had kids.

Most churches won’t let women do anything, outside of kitchen clean up duty, or baby sitting kids in the nursery during worship service.

I have never liked kids or babies, never had one myself, and I don’t feel comfortable around them, so I have no interest in serving in a kids ministry, changing diapers, teaching kids, etc.

One of the last churches I went to (a Baptist one) I volunteered my gifts for free (technical related field), and they never put them to use. I was asked once or twice by church people if I wanted to babysit the church toddlers (no, I did not).

Please get a copy of the book ‘Quitting Church’ by author Julia Duin. Portions of that book can be read for free on Amazon and google books.

There is one chapter on how the church under-utilizes women and older, single Christian people (both male and female), which is why both groups have left the church in droves.

Meanwhile, the church at large (in the USA) remains ignorant of these facts and continues to think and act as though all people attending church are age 25 – 35 are married with kids, and they continue to focus all attention on kid and youth ministry, when their real focus should be put on attracting, keeping and financing things for single people over 35, and putting skilled, bright women to work.

Recent data show that about 50% of Americans over 18 yrs of age are never married, people are putting marriage off longer (or never getting married), 1 out of 5 women are leaving child bearing yrs without having babies, etc. but churches are still acting like it’s 1953 and everyone is getting married at 21 and popping out kids by age 25.

Julia Duin mentions in her book that older women who work as lawyers, accountants, etc. are bored by church and their talents are not being put to use, so they have stopped going to church.

These are women who have no interest in reading Bible stories to three year old children every Sunday, they want to do more, but their churches will not permit them due to old fashioned interpretations of Pauline texts about women and teaching men, etc.”