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“This is not because I am a wiser or more gifted leader. It is because I am the husband. God has given me that responsibility. “

This is one of the more idiotic statements of the gender hierarchalists. IMO it takes someone either not very smart to say it or one who thinks he is able to fool many (which Grudem has indeed done). Those who believe it either just want to have that responsibility or don’t want any responsibility. Neither is a good stance to take in life. Anyone who takes the time to research if Scripture actually promotes such a foolish stance will find it glaringly absent from Scripture.

Wisdom says not to meddle in the things one is not gifted for. If a decision is to be made about something one really has no insight on, then the decision either needs to be passed on to someone who has more knowledge or they both need to do some research and brainstorm it together.