Charis

The fact is that he does not have answers to what I say so the only way to save face is to attack the person. The attack comes by saying that I am long-winded. I am not clear. I am attacking him. I have a condescending attitude. This is all a smoke screen

Dear Cheryl
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Are you quite certain the Lord has called you to engage this man in dialogue?
You’ve probably heard of Beth Moore.
In Believing God she says “Never argue with a Pharisee”
You know what is in a man’s heart comes out of his mouth (or off of his keyboard as the case may be)?

And, I have another bit from my own personal experience (after all the Bible says in Rev 12 that one will overcome the accuser of the brethren “by the blood of the Lamb and the word of your testimony” 8) ) At about the third session of marriage counseling (three years ago) the Christian counselor pointed out a phenomenon which he referred to as “deflection”. My present mentor refers to it as “projection”. It is when my husband takes his own sins and accuses me of them. Keep that in mind when Matt (or anyone else) is hurling darts at you. It really helps me immensely to feel sorry for my husband instead of being hurt by his remarks!