Charis

In answer to your question a few posts up…
I’m gonna tell you probably more than you wanted to know 😉

What is at the root of this kind of obsession with power and control?
Well, in my dh’s case, he was sexually abused with porn exposure (and possibly sodomized) in preschool. His daddy saw him doing something in the barn that 4 year olds don’t know how to do unless they have been abused, and his daddy was afraid he was going to be a homosexual…. soooo the men in the family pushed porn on him, by the time he was 12 yo the walls of his room were plastered with porn. The intense control issues are because he didn’t have control as a pre-school child.

Empathy develops in children around age 6. If a child is seriously traumatized at an age earlier than this, they do not develop empathy, they are “arrested” at the age of trauma. Men without empathy are capable of hideous crimes; they have no empathy. I am in recovery from childhood sexual abuse. I read a book and the description of the “traits of a sexual offender” sounded very much like my husband! People abused like him grow up and abuse others! That one reason I think God put us together. I was stuck at 12 and totally compliant. He didn’t need to look for a child. He married one.

Sound like a lot of psychobabble?
But I think there is scripture to support the woundedness of these people. Personally, it really bugs me when Christians are so hateful toward homosexuals. Homosexuality is a fruit of SEVERE PAIN AND TRAUMA in childhood! Jesus came …
…to preach the gospel to the poor;
…to heal the brokenhearted,
…to preach deliverance to the captives,
…and recovering of sight to the blind,
…to set at liberty them that are bruised, Luke 4

Jesus’ approach is not “shame on you, you wicked SINNER!”
NO! Jesus came to “set the captives FREE!”
HE has compassion; HE has empathy!