Cheryl

pinklight,

Mary did have a choice and we can see that by what she said in response to the angel. First of all the angel said to her that “you will conceive”. He didn’t say “you have already conceived”. In response Mary said:

Luke 1:38 And Mary said, “Behold, the bondslave of the Lord; may it be done to me according to your word.” And the angel departed from her.

Mary gave her agreement to what was given her as a prophecy. Joseph did not have the opportunity to give his agreement. When Joseph found out it was a done deal already. Mary was already pregnant when Joseph was told that she was expecting a child. His divine revelation did not come until after he already knew that she was expecting. This is quite revealing. Joseph was not told ahead of time that Mary would become pregnant. He was not even told by the angel that she was pregnant. He wasn’t divinely contacted until he had already made a decision in his heart to divorce Mary.

The fact that only Mary was approached in advance shows that only Mary’s willingness to be be a willing vessel was needed. She did not need to turn to her father to get his okay, nor did she believe that she needed to get approval from her husband. She accepted what God said and she didn’t even tell Joseph what happened to her. If Joseph was Mary’s boss because he was her husband, then surely we would have seen Mary inform him Joseph of her soon-to-be motherhood. This did not happen.