Kristen

Mara, Heidi’s entire tone throughout the conversation made it clear that she was not here to prove or defend her position, but to call us to order for not agreeing with it. The reason I responded strongly was not because it was, as you say, “blatant and off-balanced cherry-picking” — though it was. I responded strongly because she was lecturing us like recalcitrant children, as in this example of her words:

Why are you denying God’s word? What are you going to gain in the end? If we don’t lay aside our pride and rebellion and follow God’s plan , we are going to lose in the end. If you think being submissive to your husband makes you equal with a slave, then you know nothing of the cross.

You said that comps often call names, question motives and even question salvation. The above words do all three– except that she chooses “we” and “our” in order to soften it, but under the circumstances this comes across as mere condescension.

I for one am glad not to continue the conversation.