Cheryl

One other thing….if a husband sees his wife in sin, the best thing that he can do for her is to pray for her and to live an example for her of godliness. I think the same thing goes for women. When I stopped trying to change my husband and just concentrated on being the woman that God meant for me to be, it helped me a lot. I remember once being very angry with my husband and going into the bathroom to shut off myself from him and express my anger. I heard the voice of the Lord tell me that I needed to go to him and say I was sorry. I knew that I was to blame partway, but it was his own sin and his own faults and started it. I remember stamping my foot in anger at God and asking him why he always was telling me that I needed to change and I needed to apologize and why he wasn’t doing anything with my husband to correct him. I heard the Lord as clear as a bell. He said that it was none of my business what he was doing with my husband. It was only my business what he was doing with me. That changed everything for me and I stopped trying to change him. For years and years I was under the hand of the Lord and was being molded and changed. Now the things have changed and the last number of years the Lord has been dealing with my husband for change and I seem to be getting off scott-free. What I have learned is that we belong to the Lord Jesus and it is in his timing and in his way that we will change. Yes, we confront sin when the person is sinning against us, but sometimes the bad behavior is best left alone to only the Lord to deal with and when we walk in forgiveness, it seems to be the catalyst that God uses to start the change in the other person.