Paula

I think a better way to understand a spouse is to just talk to them. Why ask about generalities when the person we know is right in front of us? Why go to surveys and pop psychology when we can just talk to each other? Do we do these things with our friends or coworkers? And if we object that “he just won’t open up” or “she can’t put it into words”, then I think basic communication in the marriage needs major help! This is supposed to be our best friend, right? If I need a seminar about other people in order to understand a particular person, something is very wrong.

Instead of discussing “male brains” and “female brains”, why not have couples just discuss the two brains that matter to them?