Don Johnson

I heard an egal. male teacher mention this of a non-egal male; when a female taught; he simply was not there when he knew she would be teaching and if something happened where she would teach that was not planned, he left quietly. I immediately had respect for the non-egal male. It did hurt the female as she knew what was going on, but it was a lot better than making a scene. He acted on his conscience, but worked to preserve the peace.

A few other ideas that might help, for those in either camp:
1. Be humble and see that one MIGHT be wrong. I am a sinner, altho redeemed, and it is possible to deceive myself due to selfish motives so that I think I am right but am wrong.
2. Believe the best about another, instead of the worst.
3. Ask for clarification.
4. Do not lump together other debates in the body of Christ; let each debate stand or fall on its own merits.
5. Pray for the other. And give the other room for God to work, faith is not so much about winning as loving. (This is one I struggle with all the time.)
6. IF another offends you, go to them one on one, follow the procedure in Matthew 18.
7. If it is clear you cannot have unity in the faith, endeavor to maintain unity in the Spirit. Acknowedge the other as a believer at the very least, unless it is a salvation issue that is debated.
8. Realize that the body of Christ is about unity in diversity, as each is conformed to Christ, and not necessarily conformity with each other.
9. See where you can agree with another.
10. If a man cannot in faith learn from a woman in some format (e.g., pulpit), perhaps he can in another, for example, one on one or small group (ala Priscilla and Aquila with Apollos). Be willing to go the extra mile for those “weak in the faith” without necessarily identifying which of the 2 is “weak”.
11. Be respectful, loving, and helpful.
12. Know when to be quiet. When you start to repeat, it may be time to let go and let God.
13. Realize that some in the other camp may have “trust issues” with those in your camp, so maintain the highest integrity.
14. In everything, honor God.