Paula

Aw, gengwall, you don’t have to beg. You can differ with impunity at no charge.  😉

Suppose you have two sports cars, each very unique. They have different types of engines, different wiring, different body shapes, different manufacturers. Yet when they are tested, they perform identically. Both are cars, both will transport people, both have the same performance results. Two very different items with the same results.

The simple fact you’re overlooking is that male and female brains cannot be told apart when their “results”– thoughts– are conveyed in anonymity. Males and females certainly have different body types, and if your facts are correct and uncontested by experts in the field, different “wiring”. But the important thing is the result; does “male” thinking differ significantly and without exception from “female” thinking? No, it does not. Differences in behavior vary more among members of one sex than between them. Personality is not a gender-specific trait, but is a combination of individual genetics and experiences.

What God designed is not one superior sex and one inferior sex,  but two equal yet complementary sexes. What Peter and Paul write about is cultural reality and how believers should conduct themselves therein. Your claim that the Bible commands unconditional respect only from wives to husbands is completely unsupported from the text, as is the implication that only husbands are to agape love. All believers without exception are to agape love each other, to submit to each other, to follow Christ’s humble setting aside of privilege (Phil. 2:5-11) and to obey his command, “not so among you”.

No, you wouldn’t want to get me started about “hormonal differences” either. I don’t go berserk every month; my husband never knows when “it” is unless I tell him. Even when I was pregnant I didn’t have many of the typical, average, majority symptoms of mood swings or strange cravings. (Even so, I’d defy any man to put up with half the things women put up with!)

Many like yourself define equality between the sexes as androgyny, but I strongly disagree with that idea. Equality does not mean two people are identical. Are two twin boys or girls indistinguishable unless one bosses the other? No, we know they are two separate people, even though they may have identical genetics and behavior. Differentiation is by virtue of their being two separate people, not by their “roles”, personalities, behavior, or anything else.

It appears from your statements that you are not very familiar with the writings here. Please take some time to prayerfully consider them, as well as the excellent DVDs.