Lin

“I think there are helpful things to learn in a marriage from gender differences, but personally I don’t see any value from learning about gender differences in the church.”

Even too much focus on this outside of physical differences is dangerous in a marriage. Wars happen, people die of illness young, etc., and a spouse finds themselves taking on all responsibility of the family.

I can remember my dad being so incredulous about the fact that men did not have their wives involved in family fiances, dealing with repairs, etc. This was because several families we knew the husband died unexpectedly and these young widows were lost about many things outside of their domain. My mom and dad helped them with all these things.

Back then, unless the husband directed it, the widow could not even get money out of account! She could not get loans, etc. Thankfully, many of those laws have changed. What is ironic is that my dad died when I was 13 but my mom carried on because she knew how to deal with all that stuff and was a business woman in her own right.

We can take all this gender stuff too far.