truthseeker

I think that for many in the comp Christian realm-according to comments I have heard, the notion of the man being head has its appeal in part because it has the essence, in some ways, of chivalrous times, of knights in white armor rescuing and caring for their fair maidens. It has a bit of a fairy tale feel to it. The truth is, one can have chivalrous and ladylike behaviors, respectively, without sacrificing spiritual equality and mutuality. A man can open the door for me without having to be my ‘boss’. A woman can receive such gestures without having to sell her soul. These things can just be good manners-per the culture-without having any authority implications.

I also think many women especially are not too uncomfortable with being in comp marriages and churches because 1. their husbands may in truth function as egalitarians within the marriage, and 2. they may have no desire or calling for ministry positions that are typically filled by men in their churches so the status quo doesn’t really step on their toes. Just my too senseless worth.