Lin

“However to save the peace let’s agree that love and respect are fairly close to one another. Most women lean towards the love end (but not all) and most men lean towards the respect end (but not all). But they are closely related so that they do go together.”

Actually, this whole topic speaks to women in ministry and I think it negates your teaching that women are fully capable in all respects to teach the Word.

If there are clear ‘God ordained’ gender differences in emotions, thinking, intellect, etc., then the comps have a good point that women are more easily deceived and lack proper leadership skills.

Both Paul and Peter lived in the 1st Century where women could not work to make a living, were uneducated and given in marriage in their teens usually to a man much older. They had no social status and could make hardly any decisions about themselves. I think they are giving advice on how to live as Christians in that culture.

Eggerich misquoted the study to prop up his presupposition of hierarchy in marriage using science. He was dishonest. But he sold a lot of books. This is another reason I am so opposed to comp books telling us how to live and how we should think and feel as men and women.

The study actually confirmed that marriages of equality in ALL respects were the happiest and most successful.

All books on gender are good sellers. We want to understand one another because SIN drove us apart. We want formulas and roles to play out. But maybe we should consider that it is our sin. I want respect and I realize how narcissitic that is of me. My Lord got very little respect while He was walking this earth.But in Christ, we should not have to focus on this stuff. In Christ, there is no male or female.

And if we go back to the Garden, show me where Eve needed love and not respect? Or show me where Adam needed respect more than love. It is silly to even think about it because there was NO sin there. That is where we need to be headed and that begins within us as a work of the Holy Spirit.

I will bow out. But I think this focus is very dangerous and props up the comp argument in saying there is a reason God did not want women teaching men.