TL

Perhaps you misunderstand me, Mark. I am not suggesting that all comps foster abusiveness. I am saying that the teachings of male rule of women sets up a paradigm wherein those who are inclined toward abuse find it supports their inclinations of abusiveness. Sadly, I do believe it to be so. This does not negate the many comp men who believe their ‘ruling’ to be benign and benevolent and supportive of women. In many cases it seems so. But not in all cases. I have seen too much heartache to forget.

I am in my sixties now and retired. Traditionalism, including male leadership in home and church is what I was raised on. I do understand the teachings well. In addition I also understand the teaching of the modern complementarian teachings of equal but different, which basically support old traditionalism. And my first church in Christ was steeped in the Shepherding movement.

I also understand the desire to equal the scales by claiming that equality in home and church sets up a paradigm that supports homosexuality. But that is all it is, an attempt to balance the differences. It isn’t true. Spiritual equality in Christ does not include sin.