Corrie

“I have real life friends who have tried this exact approach and all that the church does is berate the woman and try to find out what SHE has done wrong to cause her husband’s abusive “reactions”.”

Don’t forget that Bruce Ware teaches the same thing about a wife being abused. He explained that a man has one of two ways to react to a rebellious wife- passiveness or physical abuse.

The transcript is disturbing on many levels.

First, I wouldn’t trust in any comp church leadership to take care of an abusive husband. I trusted in them to take care of someone who molested one of my children and to protect the other children in the church and when I finally had to go to the police, I was accused of “gossiping”….to the police??? They wanted to cover up this heinous offense and protect the victimizer and, in the process, they revictimized the victim.

I have seen woman after woman after woman go to the church leadership for help in an abusive situation and it ALWAYS boils down to grilling about what she did to make her husband treat her in an abusive manner. And that if she were just more sweet, accommodating and submissive, he would not have a reason to abuse her.

I also echo the advice concerning Piper following his own advice. How long would he sit and tolerate a night of smacking or verbal abuse? Would he tolerate that from a church member? Someone who walked up and punched him and beat him about the head and then when he was down on the floor kicked him in the stomach and then choked him? Would he submit to that treatment? Or would he try and defend himself? After all, he is commanded by Scripture to submit to other believers. Would he tolerate a “season” of verbal excoriation in perfectly sweet submission? Men are not exempt from being submissive, gentle, kind and all the other things they tie up on the backs of women.