TL

“it seems that a simple “husband submit to your wives as unto the Lord” would have saved a lot of women (and men because of their greater burden of “responsibility” than was necessary) a lot of pain and suffering over the years.”

It seems to me that the Holy Spirit is often not that plain. Rather, we must have a readiness of heart to see and then we will see what Jesus and the apostles are really saying. This way the obstinate cannot just write of the NT admonitions as foolish radical talk.