Lydia

“Lydia,
It saddened me to think of several childless couples I know perhaps reading these statements. If becoming pregnant was a life or death situation for her, I bet she’d choose to use contraception.”

There is a very strange movement afoot that I am seeing all over the blogosphere where ‘Christians’ are making statements about people hating children because they do not have any or only have 1 or 2.

If you look at this position logically it falls apart. First of all, many who are making such statements are making 6 figures and only have a few kids!

Folks like Al Mohler, Pattersons, Russell Moore, etc. Moore adopted his 2 and was given 10,000 cash gift by a seminary donor to do so. Even though he makes 6 figures.

Mohler wrote an article about this a while back saying that those who remain childless are selfish. He never said whether these were specifically Christian couples but he quoted a few people who said they did not want children. Mohler only has 2 children.

But I see something very different out there. I see woman struggling horribly to GET pregnant. And all this focus on childbearing and contraception, etc only puts heavy burdens on these women.

Lots of do as I say and not as I do teaching going on out there. But that is what happens when we get away from the basic Gospel and focus on the secondary stuff making it primary. It becomes a works salvation.

My view is that the OC was: Be fruitful and multiply
The NC is: Go and make disciples

After all, the basest of our society can have children all the time and do. So when the Christian woman is bombarded with these messages about childbearing it makes them wonder why on earth God is punishing them. Cheryl, I would love to hear you speak to this. It took me many years to conceive. The emotional pain is unbearable. We had started saving to adopt internationally (no fat cat donors giving us funds!) because it is actually cheaper and safer than adopting in the US! (You have NO guarantees in the US anymore of keeping the child)

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