gengwall

I agree Mark. I know many marriages that work wonderfully with two happy and loving partners that claim the complimentarian banner. But, as many have said before, these marriages are more egalitarian in function, regardless of how they define the structure. Never-the-less, no one should assume that every marriage that contains some hierarchy, or an authoritarian head, or any other terminology one wants to use, is invariably an abusive one.

On the other hand, understand where many people here are coming from. They have seen much the opposite. They have seen many relationships that truly are abusive mislabeled, misdiagnosed, and mishandled. It is understandable that they are sensitive to any assertions that abuse doesn’t exist, or any attempts to misplace blame for abuse, or any attempts to resolve abuse in ungodly ways. They have seen it over and over.