Cheryl Schatz

Mark,

Not all who believe in the male headship define is a ‘dominant’ husband. How many times do people need to be told that comp theology is not about domination whether in relation to marriage, church or the Trinity.

I wish all comp pastors understood that true complementarity is partnership. In counseling a marriage when the wife is a strong character the husband is usually told by the pastor to exercise his authority i.e. to be the dominant one as that is what is believed is what God made him to be. Some as pushed into it and others come by it naturally. Those who claim to believe in the comp position but who talk things over and work on their marriage as a partnership are living the egalitarian lifestyle in action even though it may not be in name. Comps and egals should join together to bring healing to marriages where bad advice is given by comp pastors. It is never helpful for one partner to take authority over the other. It is not God’s way.