Mara

Mark: “This is a gross overstatement. Not all who believe in the male headship define is a ‘dominant’ husband. How many times do people need to be told that comp theology is not about domination whether in relation to marriage, church or the Trinity.

I honestly see it as a misrepresentation. Too often egals link ‘domination’ with our theology. Either they are blinded to the actual teaching and or choose to ignore it.”

Or….
Egals have seen or experienced it carried out to this degree, as children or adults, or whatever.

Please, Mark, understand. I know there is a difference between patriarchy/hard comp and soft comp. I’ve posted on other blogs that I can co-exist with most soft comps.
I know it’s not right to sweep soft-comps off into the patriarch camp anymore than it’s right for some comps to say that egals hate their husbands and want to kill their children.

But also understand that there is a creeping going on. Perhaps not directly in your neck of compism. But is occurring nonetheless. Harder comp is becoming more mainstream. There are places like focus on the family that are embracing harder and harder versions of comp than what they did.

Many of us feel and see the creep. You can call it a gross overstatement. Perhaps you are right. But from my point-of-view, it looks more like a prophecy or foretelling of things to come. And it is frightful to behold.

In a nutshell, the reason I lean egal is because I see egals as having a firmer foundation. Their foundation rests squarely on the words of Christ. “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you and if you would be great in God’s kingdom, then learn to be servant of all.”

Paul’s words in Ephesians are awesome. But they have been too easily twisted too long for me to see them as foundational as the words of Jesus Himself. Paul’s words are building blocks to the house of faith and marriage more than they are the foundation. But too many try to make his words the foundation to the exclusion of the word of Christ.
Too many put too much stock in Paul’s words and not enough stock in the words of Jesus. And this is where we get most of our trouble. Too many men are straining to obey their understanding of Paul’s words without realizing how they trample the words of Jesus in the process.

Darn this got long. And I’m not even done. But am going to stop anyway.