Mara

Thank you Kay and gengwall.
I’m glad there are people who understand what I’m trying to say through all my fumbling around. And I appreciate you all.
I’ve been accused of not believing the whole counsel of scripture for suggesting that the Words of Jesus just might carry a bit more weight than Paul’s.
Jesus is our chief cornerstone. He is the stone that the builders rejected. And I hate to say it. But Patriarchs in totality and some comps have rejected His words to embrace their private interpretation of Paul’s words.
I’m not accusing our friend Mark, here. He may have that foundation fully in place in his relationship with his wife. So, Mark, I don’t want you to feel what I’m about to say applies to you or is directed toward you.
But I’ve met plenty a man who felt justified in demanding submission from his wife because that’s what the Bible said. And if he didn’t know any other verse in the Bible, he sure as heck knew where Ephesians 5:22 was because it defended his percieved, divine right as head/boss over his wife. In other words, his foundation for understanding who he was as a husband was askew.