Alison

Thanks, gengwall. This brings up the $64,000 question for me: If submission in a marriage is mutual, then why does there seem to be a need for a “leader” (usually the man) in the home? This is a question I have never gotten a satisfactory answer to, as even the softest comps usually mumble something about how the headship of the husband is a reflection of Christ’s headship of the Church, and how in that relationship, He is the leader and the Church, out of necessity, follows Him.

But whenever I read the relevant passages (in this case, Ephesians 5:21-33), the word “leader” is never found in any of the translations I’m reading. Unless that’s in the original Greek and I’m just missing it, I still stumble over that. The comps I’ve talked to tell me it’s about having an unsubmissive/unteachable spirit, that there’s probably some pride in my life that needs to be broken. That’s true, but it doesn’t answer my dang question! If anyone has any info, and can point me into some more resources, I’d love it.