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I should add…by co-leaders, I do not mean that my wife and I take turns exercising authority over each other. Neither of us ever has the right to exercise authority over the other. The only authority in our marriage is God. The co-leader arrangement pertains to who “makes the call” on decisions, and, to a certain extent, who takes the “lead” on certain activities of daily living. What this involves on an individual level is mutual submission, or deference, to the giftedness and experience of the other partner. Neither of us “lord” our giftedness and experience over the other, but instead, the less gifted or experienced partner “submits” to the other. Co-leadership in marriage coexists with, or maybe better put, is exemplified by, mutual submission.