Kay

“assume that you refer to Eph 5:21. But this is a generalized command within the Christian church, Paul makes a point of “hupotassoe” when speaking to the wife (and a point of agapao when talking to the husband) indicating distinction between the two.”

So, following that logic, it would mean that if the husband is exempt from submitting to his wife, then the wife must be exempt from the “love one another” commandment.