Lin

“I did not say that men were exempt. Merely that Paul made a distinction in his instructions to husbands and his instructions to wives (that is he told them two different things). Presumably this is good for doctrine, learning and reproof; so it seems reasonable to presume that the words of the apostle and the inequivalent instructions that he gives are of consequence and meant something.”

So, it should be understood that husbands are exempt from Ephesians 5:21 with their wives. As believers they should submit to other males and females in the Body except their wife? Is that how you understand it?