Susanna Krizo

Both Grudem and Piper recognize that the concept of headship does not work in the real world, wherefore they conclude that “headship does not define the precise activity of husband and wife,” as long – naturally – as the man has the last word in all matters.
And of course submission must be “joyful.” It would not be quite as pleasant to live with a woman who is unhappy. The “joyful” submission removes any and all feelings of guilt the man might experience and makes the whole arrangement look legitimate. Kind of like the “happy Negro” from the era of segregation (which is why black men stopped smiling in public in the 60’s which re-defined their image from “happy” to the more realistic “oppressed”). Women tend to smile more than men, and often their smile is taken for approval, whereas it is often just part of their nature as co-operative beings (women tend to be more co-operative, especially during the childbearing years due to large amount of estrogen. This does not mean that men are less co-operative, but some studies have shown that testosterone makes men more hierarchical, and dominating in relationships)