Donna

Ok thanks for clarification. I have been a christian for 3 decades now but only in PCA for 6 years.
I remember many years ago hearing a pastor of mine say the following and I thought it was pretty good.

“Whoever has the greater insight into any situation has the greater responsibility to walk in love.”

We know God resists the proud but gives grace to the humble. Being humble enough to be possibly wrong is what it takes. If resistance is that strong it is proably fear based.. Fear of looseing control. I don’t suspect its because of the love of the truth. There is something else going on under the surface. I think it was Watchman Nee who stated that a man who has to tell others he’s in authority does not have authority. Its all heart stuff and how one gets into positions. Women have to die to self just the same as men and study to show themself approved. And when God himself supports people, in this case woma/en,resisting them… be careful you are not fighting what God is doing.
Pace yourself Cheryl. Stay rested and stay balanced in other areas of your life too. You have an awesome family. Sounds cold up there. I hope you ski!!!

Cheryl,
I know you know this but it is no secret that reformed/ calvanists “the frozen chosen” lean towards arrogance. It is part of their church culture . They are very sure of themselves, and generally highly educated. They practically worship the church fathers though and they are not a charismatic people experientially. So they DO have blind spots.

(Sorry to be so blunt.)

The women I have met in my PCA church who are strongly complimentarian….ahh, thats all they know and have been taught. I suspect if you have aspirations for ministry (whatever that is -childrens church and women’s ministry and limited missions) and you want cudos ,recognition, and strokes from leadership you better stick with the program. Certainly if you recieve a salary from same, write books, post blogs, married to said pastor etc how can you do different? Unless of course your theology changes and ohh the drama that would cause. Most don’t have the courage unless it is forced upon them or some crisis occurs to get their attention. Their just being submissive and obedient as they are told and know to do.
It’s going to take a number of major players in these camps to change their position and the rest will follow like the sheep that we are, but don’t expect those who have been discipled by patriarchs to do it.
Paul reasoned with people about the scriptures. Keep up the good work with this site. There is alot of group think going on in complimentarian circles as well.