Paul's instructions on tongues and prophecy require self-control, proving the Spirit does not override the person's will

In 1 Corinthians 14, Paul regulates tongues-speaking: only two or three at a gathering, each waits for the other, only if there is an interpreter. These regulations are only coherent if the speaker has volitional control. Paul explicitly says the spirit of the prophet is subject to the prophet (1 Cor 14:32). Prophecy likewise has regulations that only work if the prophesying person is in self-control. Therefore the Spirit does not make you lose control — the Spirit's gifts operate within the framework of the person's self-governance.