A new believer should lovingly but firmly set sexual boundaries with a girlfriend, even at the risk of losing the relationship

Mike's primary counsel: relationship with God is the most important relationship; abstain regardless of cost. He tells the story of a friend who stopped sleeping with his girlfriend after becoming serious about Christ, expecting to lose her, but instead it catalyzed her own faith. They married, and their wedding night felt completely new. The cost of following Jesus is worth it, and there are often in-this-life benefits too.