Approaching a teenage atheist: dig for motives (often sin-related) rather than just arguments, in an environment of love

Mike recommends a youth pastor or trusted adult (not parent) take the teen out to lunch, express love and no anger, then dig into the reasons. At 16, atheism is often motivated by the desire for freedom from sexual and moral constraints, not by intellectual argument. If there are no solid reasons, there are only motives. Identify what atheism does for him in practical life — especially regarding girls and behavior. Address the motives, not just the arguments. The influence of an outspoken internet atheist is also likely.