Asking Right Questions
Have you ever found that your discussions with hierarchists goes nowhere fast because they say they have heard the egalitarian arguments before and they are not willing to listen to what you have to say. Perhaps we are missing an opportunity to engage them because we are wanting to teach them first
Date: 2008-07-11
URL: https://mmoutreach.org/wim/2008/07/11/asking-right-questions/
Have you ever found that your discussions with hierarchists goes nowhere fast because they say they have heard the egalitarian arguments before and they are not willing to listen to what you have to say? Perhaps we are missing an opportunity to engage them because we are wanting to teach them first instead of letting them teach us. What would happen if we let them teach us by asking them the “right” questions?
Those who believe in the hierarchical view which has restrictions on women that forbid women from teaching the bible to men, base their belief primarily on one verse – 1 Timothy 2:12. Instead of debating with them what this verse means, why not take one step back and ask them two important questions? First of all ask them if 1 Timothy 2:12 is a law of God that forbids godly women from teaching biblical doctrine to men? When you have established that 1 Timothy 2:12 is a law of God forbidding this activity, ask them when this “law” came into existence? Did it come into existence before Paul wrote it to Timothy or did it come into existence at the time that Paul wrote 1 Timothy 2?
Let’s consider the ways that this question could be answered.
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If they say that this “law” came into existence at the time that Paul wrote 1 Timothy 2, then it means that there was no “law” prior to the its creation with Paul. This means that women prior to New Testament times had no restrictions on teaching the bible to men. Does this make sense? Is it possible for Old Testament women to have more freedom than those women who became believers in Christ through Paul’s ministry? This doesn’t seem logical. Why would God allow women for thousands of years the freedom to teach the bible to anyone without regard to gender and then suddenly this bible teaching becomes a sin? If it was a sin, how would the women believers who were there before Paul wrote the “law” in 1 Timothy know that it was a sin? Priscilla apparently had no idea that her teaching the bible to Apollos and her correcting his doctrine was a wrong thing to do. Priscilla taught the bible with authority by correcting error.
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If they say that the “law” that stopped women from teaching the bible to men was created before Paul wrote it down in 1 Timothy 2, and Paul was merely referring back to a “law” that already existed, where is this “law” written down? There is no such “law” in the Old Testament that could possibly be linked back to. If they try to say that the “law” was recorded in Genesis 3:16 with the phrase “he will rule over you”, remind them that this could not possibly be a “law” that forbids women from teaching the bible to men. After all if Genesis 3:16 was really God’s will that wives were to be ruled by their husbands, then women would have to obey their husband’s command to teach the bible to men. My husband, for example, has been very strong in encouraging me to teach men and women alike with the gifts that God has given me. If I am to obey my husband I will teach men the bible instead of turning them away.
So instead of quibbling about whether there is a “law” that forbids women from teaching the bible with authority, why not ask them when this “law” started? See if they can figure it out.
Today I had the opportunity to read a blog where Bob Cleveland posted a comment that I really appreciated. It is located here.
Bob commented:
If a woman has the gift of teaching she oughtta teach; to anybody who wants and needs to benefit from her God-given gift.
This really touched me. It puts the onus on the one who wants and needs to benefit from her God-given ability. I believe that this is why scripture tells us to submit to one another. We cannot take authority over someone else and force them to listen to us. The power is in the hands of the one who submits. The submission is not so that we can be under someone’s thumb. The submission is so we can benefit from what God has given as a gift to them for our benefit. When God has given his precious gifts of teaching and insight on the scriptures to a woman, we should honor God by submitting to learn. Do you want to benefit? Don’t accuse a godly Christian woman of being in sin because she has been given insight into the bible. This gift from God through her is given freely to anyone who is willing to receive it. If you want it, you should be able to freely receive.
Scripture also tells us that all of us are “needed”. God has placed his children into the body with a special gift given to each one for the benefit of the body. We are not allowed to say that some members are not needed for our benefit. Each one has been placed in the body and each one is to function for the common good.
1 Corinthians 12:21 And the eye cannot say to the hand, “I have no need of you“; or again the head to the feet, “I have no need of you.”
When a man turns away from learning the bible because it is being taught by a woman, he is not really rejecting her but God who gave her what is needed for the health of the body. He is saying that others may need her, “but I don’t need her”. By refusing the good gift, he is refusing to submit to receive from God and he is judging God because of the vessel that God has himself chosen to use. Such a one has broken a direct prohibition of God given in 1 Corinthians 12:21.
If there are any complementarians or hierarchists reading this who would like to answer these questions, please feel free to interact on this post. I believe in treating brothers in Christ with respect even if they disagree with me on these secondary issues. Each of us is a member of the same body, bought by the shed blood of our precious Lord and Savior and I desire to honor other members of the body of Christ who are not the same as myself.
If anyone is wanting to keep up with the Matt Slick problem, see how complementarians handle authority given out to “staff” to handle those who call Matt to account. It’s on going at http://www.christiandiscussionforums.org/v/showthread.php?t=108945&page=3 and http://www.christiandiscussionforums.org/v/showthread.php?t=116749&page=11
It is an attempt to re-establish a Magisterium, a supposed infallible teaching authority, similar to the Pharisees.
Don,
Interesting that you list #3 Do not give an inch. This is where some of them are and they really don’t care how scripture tells them to deal with other members of the body of Christ.
Case in point regarding my request for a Matthew 18 meeting with Matt Slick. Below was his response today on CARM.org asking me to list his sin and asking me when I wanted to meet him at Twin Falls, Idaho. After I listed again his “sin”, Diane allowed it to stay on CARM for a couple of hours and then convinced Matt to have it removed. See Matt’s original request below:
So, when do you want to meet at Twin Falls?
List EXACTLY what sin you’re accusing me of. Make it good.
Btw, I think that your teaching on women as pastors and elders is heretical.
Look at dictionary.com. Heresy…..
- opinion or doctrine at variance with the orthodox or accepted doctrine, esp. of a church or religious system. 2.the maintaining of such an opinion or doctrine. 3.Roman Catholic Church. the willful and persistent rejection of any article of faith by a baptized member of the church. 4.any belief or theory that is strongly at variance with established beliefs, customs, etc.
Now… wim, are you a Christian? sure. Are you at variance with orthodoxy in the women as pastors and elders thing? you betcha. You continue to maintain that doctrine in error. You speak in contradiction to the historical (and biblical position).
Will I apologize? No because that is what I believe.
My response to Matt’s post:
My pastor is very, very interested in finishing his communication with you in person. He is not back until August. Anytime after mid August is fine. There will be no need for us to come to Twin Falls as the Mormon opening will be finished. I would like to meet with you, your wife and your pastor in the Boise area. My pastor will also be there along with my husband. Please state publicly that you agree to meet with me regarding this Matthew 18 request and follow through with your scriptural obligation.
Matt you are fully aware of your sin as I have already personally confronted you.
For the record here is the list:
You have sinned against me by publicly falsifying what I believe on your radio show. You were completely aware that I did not believe the falsehood as it was something that you made up for illustration purposes on our second “debate”. Then you took this falsehood and said that I believed it and taught it. Your action was public and done in a willful way. My pastor has already called you to account for this sin and asked you to repent. You have refused to repent of your sin when you have been confronted by both myself and my pastor. I have given you all the documentation and your “correction” on your radio show you just turned into another attack on me claiming that you were right and I was wrong about my “correction”.
You have sinned against me by calling me a heretic publicly on the radio.
Heretic:
1. a professed believer who maintains religious opinions contrary to those accepted by his or her church or rejects doctrines prescribed by that church.
2. Roman Catholic Church. a baptized Roman Catholic who willfully and persistently rejects any article of faith.
3. anyone who does not conform to an established attitude, doctrine, or principle.
I do not maintain religious opinions contrary to those accepted by my church nor do I have religious opinions that are rejected by the church as a whole as unacceptable opinions that would make me outside of Christianity or outside the primary doctrines of faith that are accepted by all born again Christians. There is no such thing as a person who is a “heretic” because they are a Calvinistic or a “heretic” because they do not believe in a mid-tribulation rapture and there is also no person who is a “heretic” merely because they believe that women are allowed to teach the bible to men with the authority of 1 Peter 4:11. My pastor has written you that you are wrong in labeling me a heretic and you must repent. You wrote me inviting me onto your radio show and promised me that you would be kind and then broke your promise by attacking me publicly by calling me the name that is reserved for those who destroy the basics of our faith. You did not tell me the truth when you brought me onto your radio show and your attacking me with the term “heretic” must be repented of. You have no documented church wide evidence that attaches the name “heretic” to a person who believes as I do. Your claim that I am a heretic is unwarranted.
- You have sinned against me by failing to maintain authority over your “staff” who has been given free reign under your authority on your own discussion board to publicly malign me as an enemy, a liar, “evil Cheryl” and many other accusations against my sanity and my Christianity, my character and my motives which I can document when we meet. You are asked to repent of your failure to discipline your “staff” against un-Christian behavior with the attacks and name calling. You are asked to publicly make amends for the name calling and to take your authority over your own discussion board to either have your “staff” repent of the names that you have allowed your “staff” to publicly malign me and to attack me or to publicly repent on their behalf because the actions were done under your authority.
I would also like to call you to account for the way you have allowed the CARM discussion board to be used to attack many other Christian posters who disagree with you in secondary issues. There needs to be a repentance and a turning toward Jesus Christ and his ways because Paul says that those who correct the errors of others are to be kind, able to teach, patient when wronged:
2Ti 2:24 The Lord’s bond-servant must not be quarrelsome, but be kind to all, able to teach, patient when wronged,
2Ti 2:25 with gentleness correcting those who are in opposition, if perhaps God may grant them repentance leading to the knowledge of the truth,
2Ti 2:26 and they may come to their senses and escape from the snare of the devil, having been held captive by him to do his will.This is a time for repentance and a turning away from the “style” of attack that you have employed for years. It is not Christ like. I would like to speak on behalf of every poster here who has been hurt by unkind, unloving words spoken with name calling and false accusations. This must stop.
So when will you be able to meet with me? Please give me a time to call to speak with your wife to arrange for her participation so that she can be assured that she will be not be treated unkindly but is requested to be there to support and love you as you go through this Matthew 18 experience.
Cheryl Schatz
Update, Diane has now made Matt’s post to me private. She has also stated that “if” he decides to communicate it would be on the private post.
Jesus is doing a remez/hint/hyperlink to Ps 22. You need to read the whole psalm to see what he is doing, not just the quick ref.
Truthseeker #30
You said:
They also do not refer to such things as the women’s issues as laws. They are principles written for the church. Somehow in their minds, that is a significant difference. All verses that we egals would use to raise questions and/or explain the equality position are subordinated to the verses that explicitly tell women to be silent or not teach or usurp authority, etc.
The problems with this mindset is that they may not say they are “laws” but they act as if they are. A law is to be obeyed without exception. But a principle is something that can overridden. If God has gifted a woman to teach, then will they allow the “principle” of no women teaching men to be overridden? If they do not allow a gifted woman to teach in the assembly when men are present, then they are proving by their actions that this is a “law” that cannot be broken rather than just a principle.
Also when one “subordinates” one verse to another verse this in essence is saying that that the bible contradicts itself and the “law” trumps the verses that contradict the law. Rather we should see the meaning that satisfies the seeming contradicts rather than appealing to verses that trump other verses. I see this as an immature way to “divide” the word. We need to work hard to rightly “divide” the word. We need to work to unravel what appear to be contradictions and when we have succeeded we can know we have God’s will on these hard passages. “Trump” verses are never the answer. Biblical consistency is the answer and those who ignore this will miss God’s truth in these areas.
Greg is right, they always have an answer. It may fall flat in our understanding but it seems to work for them. They do seem to tie everything back to creation.
While they do seem to have answers, I believe that it is important for us to continue to ask questions to show them the inconsistencies and outright contradictions. What you are doing is the right thing to do. I get this understanding from having worked with Jehovah’s Witnesses in a support group setting for 16 years. Those who came to me and who were not open in the least could have the seed planted through asking the “right” questions. They were not looking for “right” answers because they already believed that they knew the truth. It was the “right” questions that threw them off their solid foundation. For those who will not allow themselves to be taught, asking hard questions can be the key to change. With Jehovah’s Witnesses I found their arrogance at having the only right religion caused many of them to struggle when they had questions given to them that they could not answer. These questions can shake their foundation. But you may never know how much your questions have shook them. Those who are deep down truth lovers will struggle with the questions until the question goes from a seed into a plant in their hearts. I see the same thing with hierarchists. They can be very arrogant. They have the truth and no egalitarian knows anything about scripture on the women’s issue. But when you present questions that they cannot answer and you continue to push them for answers that resolve the contradiction without ignoring the verses that cause them problems, you will be planting a seed for change in their heart and you will probably never even know it until the seed has produced a plant.
The key then is to keep up the questions. Keep pushing for answers. A question asked once without an answer is an opportunity to ask it again and again and again. This is what I do and what makes me very persistent. Questions deserve to be answered. If there is no answer, I do not see the silence as an answer. I come back another time with the same question or another question that is slightly different worded. An unanswerable question is not the fault of the one asking the question. It is the fault of the one who arrogantly believes that he has all the answers.
I was told that the context was different.
This is one of those shut down statements. It is invalid if they cannot show you from the context where it is different. This reminds me of all the times where I have argued from the text and the context and the person then states, “but the whole of the bible supports my view”. So the “whole of the bible” supports that the man is in authority over the woman? If this is true, then give me a statement that says this. The “whole of the bible” is used by every cultist I have met and every one who is pushing their own agenda. Funny how the entire bible (without specifics) can be used to prove anything. Once one understands that these are classic “shut down” statements, one can formulate more questions that challenge the person. It is easy to claim the whole of the bible teaches something but the proof of that from the text and the context of two passages in agreement is the standard “safe” way. Two or three witnesses is for safety. Every cultist has one verse alone taken out of its context. Two witnesses are needed at the minimum and the context is the king.
One funny thing is that I have been dealing with a pastor who has been backpedaling on the women’s issue and he has stated that “context is king” to me but when I asked him to show me in 1 Cor. 11 where the context of “head” from 1 Cor. 11:3 is shown to be “authority over” in the passage. I told him to check it out and see that there is no reference to someone’s authority over the other person in Paul’s writing about head coverings and hair length. To that he replied that “context is king, but not always”. No, context is always king. If one’s idea cannot be supported by the context, then that is only a “pretext” for error.
Cheryl,
I want to thank you for your persistence on this issue. It certainly is a strong encouragement to me. I was happy this past week to study with a Jewish woman rabbi and hear her take on things. I have written about http://powerscourt.blogspot.com/2008/07/anti-judaism.html”>some related thoughts here.
Um, how should I post a link?
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