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She is called to submit because a decision MUST be made. “

First, there are no Scriptures I know of that say a woman must submit to husbands decisions when she disagrees.

In all honesty I’ve never known of a situation where an important decision had to be made that couldn’t have been handled with prayer, compromise, and consultation. In a emergency whoever is involved may have to make the decision. In things that really only concern one spouse, the spouse most affected should have the highest priority and preferred decision. In major decisions such as moving, buying a car, etc. if the couple cannot agree, THEN NOTHING SHOULD BE DONE UNTIL THEY DO. Some of the biggest errors have been made when wife could not agree with husband and so husband pulled his trump card and did what he felt best. Your spouse is with you for a purpose. Even if you cannot see why you shouldn’t buy that car, it may be that it is your wife who has the word of the Lord on it and waiting or just not doing anything is truly the best choice.

When I said that My first response to your view of husbandly leadership is there is an assumption that the husband has superior maturity and a superior knowledge than the wife…… here’s what I meant. A husband who holds a trump card is already making an assumption that his decisions are superior to his wife’s. Anyone that who believes it is their responsibility to decide when other’s disagree has made an unconscious and unspoken statement that his knowledge is superior to theirs. In a corporate or group setting that could be true, but not always. But the one who has the superior position is supposed to be more knowledgeable at least. In a marital relationship where the wife’s disagreement will always be subject to the husband, the statement is clear. She is less responsible at the very least. Husband and wife are supposed to be two equals joined in an intimate soul union where the two become so enmeshed that they begin to operate in tandem, joined and complementing one another in all the undertake.