Kristen

Tawanda, if God never intended any woman to have authority over any man– if this is His hard-and-fast rule– then what about Deborah, judge of Israel, and Huldah, prophetess to kings?
I would say that Paul does say “if anyone sets his heart on being an overseer.” “Anyone” here is a gender inclusive word. Also, in the ancient Greek, the masculine case was gender-inclusive unless the text indicated otherwise. “Husband of one wife” in the Greek is an idiomatic expression, “one-woman man,” and should best be rendered in modern English “faithful spouse.” They had no gender-neutral word like “spouse” for “married person” in that language.

Here are Cheryl’s own thoughts on this passage:
http://strivetoenter.com/wim/2007/01/28/does-%e2%80%9chusband-of-one-wife%e2%80%9d-disqualify-women-from-being-a-pastor/

You are quite correct that the scriptures are being twisted to please men– but not in the way you think. They are being twisted to favor men getting to stay in charge, when no such view can be shown to be the original intent.