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“I am rather confused on one point- why is everyone assuming submission= complete dehumanizing/infantilizing/trivializing of the individual who is submitting? That isn’t what Christ does to us as we submit to Him, rather He grows us more fully into who we are (which is who He created us to be. I am rather uncomfortable with the idea that Christ didn’t make us who HE wanted us to be.”

Tiffany, I am EXCEEDINGLY uncomfortable that any human being can take the place of God in a woman’s life. No human should EVER think it is acceptable for a man to think he can mold his wife into the person that he wants her to be. God is perfect in all aspects, Holy and without blemish. God only is capable to determining what is best for every human being. Husbands do not share that ability with God. No one does.

Our submission to (arranging ourselves under, respect and honor, support, etc. ) God is always going to be different than our submission to one another. Our submission to one another (allelon) is not obedience to one another, but of considering otherS needs first, of supporting and provoking others toward good. It is not a class distinction of all blacks submitting to all whites, or all poor submitting to all the rich, or of all women submitting to all men. It is about an attitude of love, respect and humility to be shared amongst all believers.

While submission is freely spoken of, commanding is not spoken of. No one get’s the freedom to command others and expect obedience in the body of Christ.